Are You Afraid Of What Other People Think Of You?

How important is the opinion of others to you? How dependent are you on “what other people will say?” Have you ever opt out of something because of others’ opinion? Are you trying to be what others want you to be so you can receive their recognition? Are you constantly looking for their approval?


In fact, the more you try to please others and seek their approval, the more they don’t like you.
Because trying to please everyone, you’re actually receding from yourself and lose your intrinsic uniqueness. Why is it so important others to like us? To raise our self-esteem, make us feel wanted, valued, loved?

Why do you pay attention to what other people think of you?

Do you fear what other people think of you?Think for a moment – does is matter what other people think of you on how you accept yourself?

Our thoughts about us, our confidence or uncertainty radiates and gets captured by others. If you perceive yourself as stupid, uncouth person, others will see you too in exactly the same way. If you’re agonized by doubts and are unsure, if you don’t have confidence in yourself, others won’t trust you also.

Imagine going to the doctor. He’s a specialist, but he’s uncertain and hesitates too much what medicine to prescribe you. Will you trust this doctor? Of course, you won’t. Most probably, you’ll look for another more competent one, who will accurately and convincingly offer you treatment. Actually, the first doctor might be more competent, but his low self-esteem and self-doubt cause you to form an opinion of him that he’s not good enough. And all this comes from the emitted energy of his thoughts of himself that you perceive on a subconscious level.

Have you ever went to a meeting and started worrying about how others will perceive you, how they will accept you?

The truth is – others will think of you exactly what you think of yourself.

To wit – others form an opinion of us, influenced by our own thoughts emanating outwards, of our self-acceptance.

Then if you want others to take you as a competent, valuable person, see yourself as one. Build more confidence in yourself to allow others to trust you.

What you need to do is change your attitude towards yourself, start to value, trust and love yourself. When you change your opinion of yourself, you’ll be surprised how the attitude of others changes towards you.

Actually, how can we hope those around us to make us feel valuable if we regard ourselves as not worthy?

One who believes in himself always succeeds.The process is reciprocal – others won’t increase our confidence, this is our job, and by doing it we change their attitude towards us.

Everything starts with you. However, not when you strive to be what they want you and customize according to their requirements, but when you value and be yourself.

Of course, not everyone will like and approve us. And it’s not necessary. But by being yourself and believing in you, you’ll find your real friends, who like you the way you are. No need to pretend so that they can like you.

The assessment of others is not an indicator of your value. Your value is determined by your own opinion about yourself.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion and if someone doesn’t approve you, don’t take it personally.

People will try to discourage you.

Sometimes, when you undertake something new, the people in your circles will try to discourage you by saying: “you won’t succeed”, “you cannot do it by yourself” and so on.

Don’t let to be manipulated with such talks.

always believe in yourself no matter whatBelieve in yourself! Just because others are afraid and have limiting barriers, the fact they are subject to conventional wisdom, shouldn’t stop you. No wonder that in life, the people who make breakthroughs always try something new, not afraid of the unknown and trust themselves.

To succeed, one must be deaf to the opinion of others. The truth is, to achieve something different, you should be different, unique and not follow the beaten track. You shouldn’t fear what other people think of you.

Have you ever been stopped by “what people will say?”

When doing something new, different from the established norms or something unknown, people talk, gossip, criticize, spit, accuse, deny, envy…

But only because of others, will you disown yourself, your own pursuit of happiness? In the name of what? To please them?

don't apply conventional wisdom to everythingAnd who knows what’s the best for you? Can any of them know what will bring you true happiness and satisfaction, which will fulfill your life? Does anyone of them know the lessons you need to learn?

The answers to all these questions are in you!

And people will always have something to say, comment, deprecate, revile. Should all this talk dissuade you? Certainly not.

Everyone, even the greatest inventors, scientists and people with progressive ideas have their opponents. But that doesn’t make them give up from their path and by like others. Contrary, it’s the defense of your thesis, your opinion, yourself, that wins you more supporters.

Because those who are different and pave new roads:

– Either get stigmatized by the society as being mad, traitors, sects…
– Or become leaders.

Very often, they go through the stage of criticism and accusations… to achieve recognition.

In all cases, new ideas, new things are introduced by people who are independent of the opinion of others and have confidence in their own selves.

The paradox is that just when you’re independent of the views of others, people start to like you more.

So… everything begins from us. All answers are in us.

Be yourself, believe in yourself, value and love.

And let people continue talking…

What do you think on the matter of keeping your uniqueness or losing it in the crowd of sameness. Which option is better?

Written by: Georgi Karalov